function construction - Clean and handy Options management/filtering

the case

I want to be able to create a function with some default options but also without need to add full explicit list of options available for it.

And then inside I want to be able to filter from given and default options, those which are Button options or Tooltip options for example.

So something like:

Options[f] = {(*list of default options*)}


f[args__, OptionsPattern[]]:=Column[{
   (*Options that are suitable for Button*),
   (*Options that are suitable for Tooltip*),
   OptionValue[(*specific name*)]
 }]

And I wasn't able to get this with built in Options management functions: OptionsPattern[], OptionValue, FilterRules etc.

additional requirements

1. 
   
   

   I want to avoid Options[f] = Join[customOptions, Options[Button], ...].

   
   

   I don't think is a good solution, there may be duplicates in customOptions for them and an explicit list of Options[f] grows.

   
   


2. 
   

   I want to be able to provide any option to the function without error messsage e.g.: Unknown option Apparance for f...

   
   


3. 
   

   We can get 2. by skipping OptionsPattern[] in definition but without it we can't use built in OptionValue. I want to be able to refer to functions by their names.

   
   


4. 
   
   

   Rules filtering mechanism should not produce duplicates. I know Button[..., ImageSize->300, ImageSize->200] will behave stable but I find it ugly.

   
   

my approach

(* auxiliary functions *)

mergeRules = GatherBy[Join[##], First][[All, 1]] &;

optionValue = #2 /. # &;


(* function definition *)

ClearAll[f];
Options[f] = {"Test" -> 1, ImageSize -> 100, TooltipDelay -> 20};

f[x_, optionsPattern : (_Rule | _RuleDelayed) ...] := With[{
   opt = mergeRules[{optionsPattern}, Options[f]]}
  ,
  Column@{
    FilterRules[opt, Options@Button],

    FilterRules[opt, Options@Tooltip],
    optionValue[opt, "Test"]
    }
  ]

So I need to start my definitions with With[{ opt = mergeRules[ {optionsPattern}, Options[f]]}, which does not seem to be a big problem, but why I have to do this?

tests

f[1, Appearance -> "Palette"]

{Appearance->Palette, ImageSize->100} 
{TooltipDelay->20}
1

f[1, ImageSize -> 200]

{ImageSize->200}
{TooltipDelay->20}
1

f[1]

{ImageSize->100}
{TooltipDelay->20}
1

question

Is there simpler approach, with built functions maybe? Or should I include Options[Button] etc. to Options[f] and count on the fact that when given duplicates, first one wins?

Edits

Mr.Wizard's answer fulfills points:

1 automatically, 2/3 by using OptionsPattern[{f,Button, ...}]. So still 4 needs custom filtering function but it is a good answer anyway.